Mojo Mom Chapter 6: Express Yourself

I truly believe that creativity is the underutilized secret weapon of motherhood. Thinking of mother self as an artist has saved my sanity time and time again. When you are an artist, no experience is ever wasted. Life is all potential material that could fuel creativity in an unexpected way later on. So while we sign up our kids for art, music and drama class, let's remember to find our own creative outlets as well. My favorite outlet over the years has been improv comedy, something I wanted to do try in college but never actually did until I signed up as a class to blow off steam when my daughter was a todder. It was a fantastic outlet where I could take of my Mommy hat and not worry about saying the right thing for a change.

The chpater Express Yourself gives you dozens of ideas on how to find your creative outlet. And yes, this is the chapter where I talk about sexuality as well, because that is a key form of expression and intimacy, one that can present an ongoing challenge for every long-term relationship, especially through the transition to parenthood.


Creative Exploration

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

The Creative Habit by Twyla Tharp

The Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander

101 Improv Games for Children and Adults by Bob Bedore and Ian Barkeley

The Tarot Handbook: Practical Applications of Ancient Visual Symbols by Angeles Arrien, Ph.D.

Arrien's description of the The Princess of Disks was one of the few positive, powerful motherhood symbols I found while I was writing Mojo Mom. "The Princess of Disks is the pregnant lady who represents mastery of creative power. She is a woman who has been over the volcano and through the briar patch. She bears new life that has been gestating and incubating within her for some time...."

Women's Voices in Public Discourse

BlogHer

Women’s e-News

The Op-Ed Project

Sexuality--An important aspect of getting your mojo back, and an ongoing challenge for busy parents.

Great Sex for Moms: Ten Steps to Nurturing Passion While Raising Kids by Valerie Davis Raskin, M.D.

Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

Sex Smart: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Sexual Life and What to Do About It by Aline P. Zoldbrod, Ph.D.

Resurrecting Sex: Resolving Sexual Problems and Rejuvenating Your Relationship by David Schnarch, Ph.D.

Nominate your favorite cause for BlogHers Act

My friends Cooper and Emily from Been There are helping launch a new BlogHer initiative: BlogHers Act. The goal is to identify one signgle global cause that the 11,000+ bloggers in this community could impact by working on it collectively for a year. You can nominate an issue by blogging about it yourself. Just tag your post with "BlogHers Act" and they will find you. Or, if you leave a comment on this post nominating an issue or project, your idea will be counted as well. Write quickly because the deadline for suggestions is this Friday, June 15.

A second aspect of this project is to identify the top four issues that women online want the Presidential candidates to address in order to win our votes in the '08 election. This is also a very worthy goal but I am going to focus on the "making a difference on a single global cause" initative.

I am involved with a number of causes, so I had to think about what could capture the imagination and interest of the entire BlogHer community. One of my themes as Mojo Mom is to help women discover their strong and opinionated voices, and this seems like a natural fit for BlogHer.

To that end I would like to nominate Catherine Orenstein's "Op-Ed Project"as the yearlong rallying point for the BlogHer community. Catherine (aka Katie) makes a compelling case for more diversity on the op-ed page. Noting that between 65 and 75% of unsolicited op-eds come from men, Katie has created training that teaches her students exactly how to pitch and write a successful op-ed. She trains men as well as women, but many of her classes are offered through the Woodhull Institute for Ethical Leadership, which teaches women the skills they need to claim a place in the the public spotlight.

I was blown away by my recent experience taking Katie's day-long seminar. Even strong and accomplished women may have never thought of publishing an opinion piece before. Feminine socialization is a factor. "Nice girls" don't make a fuss, and even powerful women can have difficulty claiming their authority. Katie teachers her students how to push beyond that feeling so that we get our ideas out there. When she asks students "What are you an expert in?" she has never met a man who says he isn't an expert in anything, but women regularly answer this way.

You may be thinking that we already have an outlet through blogs, why do we need to submit op-eds for publication? Katie encouraged us to think about the audience we could reach through large publications: influential decision-makers who are unlikely to find the Mojo Mom blog would read me if I were in The New York Times. I would like us to spend a year using the writing skills we have developed to make a concerted effort to create new pieces for visible placements, and tracking the results of our participants.

What cause would you like to see the BlogHer community take on? Post your comments here to nominate your best ideas!